I’m a little obsessed with Lori and Josh’s elegant Providence wedding. Normally I’m not a huge fan of rainy day weddings. I’m not sure that anybody really is, even if they say they are. Secretly, everyone wants their wedding day to be sunny and beautiful. Picture perfect. But that’s not how life is. Life doesn’t always turn out exactly how you want and it’s up to you to find the silver linings. And this wedding is all about silver linings.
Lori and her sister Heidi lost their mother to cancer seven years ago. I never met their mom but I wish I had as I love this entire family so much (I photographed their cousin Jill’s wedding a few years ago and have been photographing their families for years) and I’m sure she was an amazing woman. I know she was because you could feel her presence all day. You could feel love, and support, and kindness. The kind that you get from your mom.
The silver lining is that Lori and Josh found each other. They have a special kind of love that doesn’t happen every day. And they have incredible families and friends that wrap their arms around them and support them. Their wedding was held at The Dorrance which is an incredible building filled with gorgeous architectural details. It was originally a bank and has been converted into a restaurant. It was the perfect venue for this elegant affair and it was easy to lose yourself in the old world glamor of the day.
As for the rain, it too was a silver lining. We had plans to walk all around Providence doing portraits of the bridal party. I was so looking forward to doing lots of urban bridal party photos. But, just as we were about to do our first look, the rain came. And it never really stopped. But, the result was even better. The portraits were more intimate. We huddled together under umbrellas and used the incredible space in The Dorrance for our portraits. In the end, it was perfect. Exactly as it should be and, just as in life, once you let go of your expectations, you can truly appreciate what you are given.
Congratulations to Lori and Josh. For finding each other, for loving each other, and for throwing one hell of a party!
I am so lucky to have my own mom with me at all our weddings. She is my anchor. Not only is she an incredible photographer but her kindness radiates out to everyone around her. I don’t know what I would do without her and keep telling her that she has to work with me until she’s 92! I may have to switch professions if she decides to stop photographing weddings with me. I couldn’t stop hugging her at this wedding.
If you are lucky enough to have your mother with you, please give her a hug today.